TAT Frequently Asked Questions

Member Log-In and Password

I have a suggestion and/or feedback for TAT about "Member Log-In and Password"

If you wish to post feedback or a suggestion, please click on the contact link at the bottom of the home page and use the drop-down to select "Suggestion/feedback"

TAT keeps asking me to log-in. What should I do?

If you have cookies disabled, there is no way for the TAT system to know you were at the site before. Therefore, every time you log-in, TAT will continue to log-in each time you sign-on to the System. To ensure your "cookies" are fully enabled within your browser preferences, please take the following steps:

  1. Open Internet Explorer
  2. Click the Tools button, and then click Internet Options
  3. Click the Privacy tab, and then, under Settings, move the slider to the top to block all cookies or to the bottom to allow all cookies, and then click OK

I’ve been unable to receive my TAT email to reset my password

If you are having trouble accessing an existing account on TAT, please click-on the contact link at the bottom of the home page and use the drop-down arrow to select "User Name/Password" in the "Comments to Us" field. Then, please describe your issue. Don’t create another account. Creating a new account will delay resolution of your issue. In an effort to resolve the problem, please try the following:

  1. It’s possible for the email to be delayed if there’s an unusually high server load. Please give it just a few more minutes.
  2. Check your email application's junk folder, spam and/or filter
  3. If you're still having trouble after completing the above steps, please click-on the contact link at the bottom of the home page and use the drop-down arrow to select "User Name/Password" in the "Comments to Us" field. Then, please describe your issue.

Note: It’s possible for your emails to be blocked by your internet service provider (ISP).

I’ve reset my password. However, I’m unable to gain access to TAT the next time I logged-in to the Site. What Should I do?

If you are prompted to reset your password, each time you log-in, the issue may be related to your internet browser. Please clear your cookies and browsers cache. Then, please try again.

I forgot and/or want to change my password

You can reset your password by going to My Account (edit) link on the Home Page and click-on the change User Name/E-mail/Password link. However, if you forgot your password, please click-on the "Forgot Password" link at the top of the Home Page.

Note from TAT – Life is short and safe sex is the way to go. Please ensure that you practice safe sex.

Member Security

As a member of TAT, how do I protect the security of my account?

Never click suspicious links
If the accounts of friends and family are infected, it’s highly possible for them to unwillingly send spam, viruses and/or malware through TAT. Please use caution with all e-mails that have an attachment. Don’t run any ".exe" files on your computer without knowing what the they consist of. Also, please employ the use of the most current version of your browser. Browsers contain important security warnings and protection features.

Current versions of Firefox and Internet Explorer provide warning if you’ve navigated to a suspected phishing site. TAT highly recommends that all users upgrade their browser to the most current version. You can also find more information about phishing at the following website:

http://www.antiphishing.org/consumer_recs.html
http://onguardonline.gov/phishing.html

Always use a unique and strong password:
Please ensure that you use a different password than you use for other sites or services. Your unique, strong password should be consist of a complex string of numbers, letters and punctuation marks that is at least 7 characters in length. Using words found in the dictionary is not a way to ensure a strong password.

Click here for help with Anti-Virus Software

Messages and/or posts were sent from my account and I didn't send them

It is possible that malicious software was downloaded to your computer or that your password was stolen by a phishing website designed to look like TAT.

Click here for help with Anti-Virus Software

There appears to be a fake spyware message on www.TAT

Please follow the steps outlined below:

  1. Please don't use the URL showing on the message.
  2. Go to www.superantispyware.com
  3. Download the software to scan your computer and kill the spyware/virus immediately.

What is phishing?

Phishing is an online attempt to trick a user by pretending to be an official log-in page or an official email from an organization you may have an account with (e.g., bank, email provider, etc). They disguise themselves as a familiar entity in order to obtain your log-in and account information. In the case of a phishing log-in page, the log-in page may look identical to the log-in page you would normally go to, but the website does not belong to the organization you have an account with. In the case of a phishing email, the email may look like an email you would get from the organization you have an account with, but the link in the email directs you to a "phishing" log-in page (instead of a legitimate, authorized log-in page for that organization).

To prevent your account information from being obtained in a phishing scheme, only log-in to legitimate pages of the websites you have an account with. For example, "www.ilovetat.com" is not a legitimate TAT page on the "www.TAT" domain. However, "www.TAT/example" is a legitimate TAT page because it has the "TAT" domain. When in doubt, type-in "TAT" into your browser to return to the legitimate TAT site.

Please note that current versions of Firefox and Internet Explorer provide warning if you’ve navigated to a suspected phishing site. TAT highly recommends that all users upgrade their browser to the most current version. You can also find more information about phishing and how to avoid it at:



http://www.antiphishing.org/consumer_recs.html
http://onguardonline.gov/phishing.html

I’m receiving spam from my TAT friend, but he/she didn't intend to send it.

It’s highly possible that malicious software was downloaded to your friend's computer or that their log-in information was phished in an attempt to send spam from their profile. Although TAT would like to investigate this issue further, we can’t release information regarding a user's account to anyone but the account holder.

If you’re still having trouble, please click the "Contact" Link at the bottom of our home page and provide us with as much detail as possible. We’ll make every effort to investigate the issue.

Messages were sent from my account and I’m sure I didn't send them.

It’s highly possible that malicious software was downloaded to your computer or that your password was stolen by a phishing website designed to look like TAT. Please carefully follow the steps provided:

Click here for help with Anti-Virus Software

My account has been hacked by another user

Make sure that the email associated with your account is secure.

If you're having trouble logging-in to TAT with your normal email and password, try resetting your password. Please use the link on the log-in page. An email will be sent to you with steps for completing the process.

If the email on your account has been changed or if you’re unable to access your profile, please send us information about the account so we can fully investigate the issue and hopefully restore access. If you’re still having trouble, please click the "Contact" Link at the bottom of our home page and provide us with as much detail as possible. We’ll make every effort to investigate the issue.

I believe my computer was phished or it may have a virus. What should I do?

With today’s technology, it’s highly possible that your password was stolen by a phishing website designed to look like TAT or malicious software was downloaded to your computer. Please try the following to help resolve your issue:

Click here for help with Anti-Virus Software

Note from TAT – Life is short and safe sex is the way to go. Please ensure that you practice safe sex.

Member Photos

How do I view my account content?

After you have logged into TAT with your e-mail address and password, you can access all of your account information on the Home Page. At the top of the Home Page is a "My Account" link that will allow you to view all of your own information. Right next to the "My Account" link is an "Edit" link which will allow you to change the information in your profile.

While you are in the "My Account" page, you can change your user name, e-mail and password. From this page, you can also upload photos, view your message from other users, view flirts sent to you by other users, view your friends, read your testimonials and block specific types of users from contacting you.

How do I permanently delete my account?

If you would like to permanently delete your account, please click-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of the home page and send a message instructing us to delete your account. We will make every effort to delete your account within 24 hours.

Note: You won’t be able to reactivate your account and/or retrieve any of the content or information you previously had access to.

Can I change my username?

You can change your user name by clicking-on the "My Account" link on the Home Page and then clicking-on "Change Username/E-mail/Password"

I have two separate accounts on TAT. Is it possible to merge both together?

We apologize that we are unable to merge and/or transfer accounts.

How do I change my location currently identified in my TAT profile?

Please click-on the "Edit" link next to "My Account" on the Home Page and then you can change your city and state.

How do I change, add or delete my profile picture?

You can manage your photos by clicking-on the "My Acount" link at the top of the Home Page and then click-on the "Photos" link.

Note: Once you’ve changed your profile picture, it may take up to several hours to synchronize across the server and show-up.

Note from TAT – Life is short and safe sex is the way to go. Please ensure that you practice safe sex.

Member Warnings

Why was warned for sending "harassing" messages?

You received this warning because you engaged in behavior other users found "harassing" in nature. TAT will not tolerate and does not allow users to send threatening or harassing messages to other TAT users. Unsolicited messages won’t be tolerated. To ensure no future issues or repercussions, please don’t send messages of this kind.

What criteria and/or actions constitute receiving "warnings" from TAT?

TAT does not have a threshold associated with "warnings." We don’t have a specific number. The issuance of warnings is determined by the magnitude and severity of your actions (e.g., the content of your message, how your message is perceived by the member alleging misconduct and/or harassing behavior, speed, time and quantity, etc). Please treat others with respect and courtesy.

If my content was flagged for "possible copyright infringement", what can I do?

TAT will do everything possible to ensure copy written content is not uploaded to our website. Please submit a message to TAT with your photo, ID and username by clicking-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of the Home Page. Then, select the relevant drop-down and complete the form.

Note: Please add any other information to help us verify your content and we’ll investigate and attempt to resolve the issue at our earliest convenience. Please don’t forget to click-on the "Send Message" button after you are finished filling-out the form

TAT sent a "warning" to me for sending spam messages

You received this warning because you sent messages that other users have reported as "spam." TAT does not allow users to send messages promoting and/or advertising a product, service or opportunity. To ensure no future warnings are sent to you, please refrain from sending messages of this kind.

Note from TAT – Life is short and safe sex is the way to go. Please ensure that you practice safe sex.

Member Privacy

Does TAT distribute my user information?

No, TAT respects your privacy. We don’t distribute your user information to marketers and/or spammers. You can read more about this in our Privacy Policy. This policy can be accessed via the link to "Privacy Policy" on the bottom of our Home Page.

What should I do if someone is harassing me?

You may submit your report to TAT by clicking-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of our Home Page and there will be a drop-down for you to select "Abuse/Spam" questions as well as provide us with detailed comments.

How do I "unblock" someone?

You can unblock a user by visiting their profile and select "Remove Block".

What happens when I block someone?

When you block a member on TAT, it prevents the blocked person from viewing your private information and disables there ability to send you private messages, flirts and other interactions. It does not stop them from viewing your public profile and/or public content.

How do I block someone?

You can block someone by clicking the "Block User" button on the user’s profile page.

How do I report a "fake" profile?

You may submit your report to TAT by clicking-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of our Home Page and there will be a drop-down for you to select "Abuse/Spam" questions as well as provide us with detailed comments.

How do I report someone for violating TAT’s "Terms of Use"?

You may submit your report to TAT by clicking-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of our Home Page and there will be a drop-down for you to select "Abuse/Spam" questions as well as provide us with detailed comments.

Note from TAT – Life is short and safe sex is the way to go. Please ensure that you practice safe sex.

Member Profile

How do I delete or add a profile picture?

You can delete or add your profile picture at any time by clicking-on the "Manage Photos" link located on your Account Page.

Note: Once you have changed your profile picture it may take some time to synchronize across the servers.

How do I add photos and create an album?

To upload photos to a new or existing album, click-on the "My Account" link at the top of the Home Page and then click-on the "Photos" link

Is there a limit to how much I can upload?

Yes, you can upload profile images (no nudity please), three public photos (again, no nudity please) and six member/private photos.

How long will my uploads take?

Depending on your internet connection speed (high-speed vs dial-up), the size of the photo and the amount of traffic on TAT, it can take anywhere from a minute to several hours.

Normally, for high-speed internet connections, uploads take between 1 to 5 minutes for every 1MB uploaded. Due to the variation in connection speeds, each member’s experience will differ.

What file formats can I upload?

TAT has the capability to accept image files in the following formats: JPG, JPEG, PNG, GIF

How do I challenge a rejection?

If your photo upload is rejected and you would like to challenge the rejection, please take the following steps:

  1. Click-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of the Home Page
  2. Send a message that clearly outlines why you think the rejection should be reconsidered.

How do I remove a photo?

To remove one of your photo uploads, please follow the steps listed below:

  1. Click-on the "My Account" link at the top of our Home Page
  2. Click-on "Photos" on your Account Page
  3. Scroll down to the photo that you wish to delete and click-on the delete link next to the photo.

How do I view and save photos?

You can view another user’s public photos when searching profiles on our site. If you wish to see a user’s private photos, you’ll need to ask the user to unlock the photo(s).

How many photos can I upload to my account?

TAT allows users to upload up to 10 photos to your profile.

How do I share photos or an album with someone?

You can share a TAT photo with any of our users by viewing their profile and selecting the "Give Private Access" link.

Some people can’t view my pictures.

When you upload photos to TAT, they must be synchronized and may take up to several hours to show-up. If you continue to experience technical issues with your photo upload, please click-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of the Home Page and send us a message detailing your issue.

What is Law 2257?

It’s the law to ensure everyone involved in creating photos and/or videos of a sexual nature acquires proof of age. It also dictates how that proof is stored. Failure to comply with this law will result in jail time and/or a massive fine. It’s imperative that you are at least 18 years of age or older. Please don’t try to mislead TAT or our members by falsely indicating you’re of the appropriate age if you’re not. If you attempt to mislead TAT or our members, we’ll immediately report you to your local law enforcement agency. There will be NO exceptions. Thank you.

How long do photos stay on TAT?

Your content will remain on TAT until you remove it or delete your account.

Note: TAT reserves the right to remove content that violates the "Terms of Use" and/or have been flagged.

Do I have to sign-up with TAT to upload photos?

Yes. Everything you upload is attached to your profile that you created upon signing-up with TAT.

Becoming a TAT member allows you to upload up to 10 photos, give private access to your photos, send messages, flirts, testimonials, friend request and possibly win prizes!

How does content get featured on the front page of TAT?

Unfortunately, this isn’t a feature currently available. However, if there’s enough demand, we’ll consider adding it in the future. Thanks!

Note from TAT – Life is short and safe sex is the way to go. Please ensure that you practice safe sex.

Member Registration

I’m not receiving my messages form TAT or there are code words in the box (recaptcha) that will not load.

Please remember that TAT may show-up as "spamv or "junk" mail because it’s a XXX site. Please adjust your e-mail setting accordingly to ensure you’re receiving your TAT e-mails. If it’s not showing-up in your spam or junk mail, your settings may be automatically deleting your TAT e-mail. Please adjust your settings accordingly.

In reference to code words in the box (recaptcha), your problem may be related to your internet browser and/or system being out of date. Make sure your computer is up-to-date with the following:

Update Browsers:

  1. Google Chrome for Windows and Apple
  2. Mozilla FireFox for Windows and Apple
  3. Safari for Windows and Apple
  4. Microsoft Internet Explorer (Windows Only)

Update Operating Systems:

  1. Windows: http://windowsupdate.microsoft.com
  2. Apple/Mac: System tools --> System Update

Update Adobe Flash:

  1. Windows and Apple: http://get.adobe.com/flashplayer/otherversions/

Note: If you’d like to learn about recaptcha, please go to the following site: http://recaptcha.net/

I’m trying to create a new account and the TAT system indicates an existing account is already associated with my current email address

If you encounter such a message, then the email address you’ve attempted to register with is currently registered to another username/profile. TAT requires a unique email account for each username/profile. Please take the following steps to resolve the issue:

  1. If you are trying to create another TAT username/account, you will NEED TO USE another email address not associated with the first one you used.
  2. If you don’t remember creating your TAT account at a previous time, it’s possible that you did at some point or someone made a typo in creating their account. If TAT indicates that the e-mail address you’re attempting to use is "already in use", please request the password and it will be e-mailed to the email address you’re attempting to use. Note: please check your "junk" e-mail inbox.

The Captcha ("verify code") will not load.

Your problem is probably related to your internet browser. Please upgrade your Internet browser and/or clear its cache and cookies. If you continue to experience problems, please click-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of the Home Page and send us a message detailing your issue.

Upon signing-up for TAT, my username was rejected during the sign-up process.

If the username was rejected upon trying to sign-up, the username you chose is currently being used. If you’re absolutely set on a particular username, please consider using the same username with a numeral at the end of it. For example, "SexyTranny" is currently being used but "SexyTranny1" is available.

Can I change my username?

Yes, you can change your username by selecting the "My Account" link on the Home Page. Then, select the "Change Username/E-mail/Password" link on your Account Page.

What is the minimum password strength? How can I make my password strong?

When creating a new password, it must be at least 4 characters in length and that you use a complex string of numbers, letters and punctuation marks. If the password you entered is not strong enough, try making it longer or mix uppercase and lowercase letters.

Note: For added security, your TAT password should be different than other passwords that you use on the internet.

What do I need to do to sign-up on TAT?

Please follow the steps listed below:

  1. On the TAT Home Page, click-on "Join Today" at the top of the Home Page or "Register Today" in the middle of or on the bottom of the Home Page.
  2. Complete each field (E-mail, Username, Password, Birthday, What your are – man, TS, etc and what you’re interested in – man, TS, etc. You can select more than one interest by holding down the CTRL key on your computer while you’re making your selections.
  3. Certify that you’re at least 18 years old and have read and agree to the TAT terms of use.

What is the minimum age required to sign up for TAT? How old do you have to be?

In order to be view and/or be eligible to sign-up for any TAT account, users must be eighteen (18) years of age or older. There are no exceptions to this requirement.

Note: Please see Law 2557

My confirmation email didn't arrive.

Please follow the steps below to resolve this issue:

  1. Check your email application's spam, junk folder or filter.
  2. Check that you're registered with the correct email address.
  3. Please note that some emails may be blocked by your ISP (internet service provider).
  4. If you're still having trouble after the above steps, please click-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of the Home Page and send us a message detailing your issue.

Note: TAT may show-up as "spam" or "junk" mail because it’s a XXX site. Please adjust your e-mail setting accordingly to ensure you’re receiving your TAT e-mails. If it’s not showing-up in your spam or junk mail, your settings may be automatically deleting your TAT e-mails.

How does the Private e-mails feature work?

TAT recognizes that you may not wish to receive e-mails containing the name of our website. In order to help you maintain your privacy and discretion, we’ve created an option of you to receive e-mails from our generic news site. Once you join our site, go into "My Account" and then click on the "Edit Account" link. You will be directed to the "Edit Your Profile Page." On the right hand side, under "Account Settings" is the option to "Receive emails from ..." Click on the "Turn On" link and then click on the "update with changes" button at the top right of the page. All emails from our website will now be discreetly delivered to your email in-box from this alternate website. You can also use the generic "News" option to discretely access TAT from work or other more public location(s).

Note: TAT may show-up as "spam" or "junk" mail because it’s a XXX site. Please adjust your e-mail setting accordingly to ensure you’re receiving your TAT e-mails. If it’s not showing-up in your spam or junk mail, your settings may be automatically deleting your TAT e-mails.

Note from TAT – Life is short and safe sex is the way to go. Please ensure that you practice safe sex.

Copyright

How do I report copyright infringement?

TAT respects the intellectual property (IP) rights of others and we prohibit users from posting content that violates another party's intellectual property rights. When we receive a proper claim of IP infringement, we promptly remove and/or disable access to the allegedly infringing content. TAT reserve the right to terminate the account of repeat infringers.

To file a copyright claim, please click-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of our Home Page and send us a message detailing your issue.

Why was my content removed?

Your content was removed because we determined that it violates the TAT "Terms of Use" (which you agreed to upon registering with TAT).

The TAT "Terms of Use" includes but is not limited to our content, intellectual property and privacy policies. Please re-read our "Terms of Use" and be certain that all of your remaining content on the TAT website complies with these rules.

What can I do if I don't own the copyright to the content I uploaded or I don’t have the permission of the copyright owner to use it?

We strictly prohibit the posting of infringing material onto TAT and we may terminate the account of repeat offenders. You may only upload content to the TAT website if you are certain that you have the legal right to do so. If you’re not certain that you are legally authorized to use the content you have uploaded to TAT, please remove it immediately.

About Intellectual Property (IP)

TAT respects the IP rights of others and we prohibit users from posting content that violates another party's intellectual property rights. When we receive a proper claim of IP infringement, we promptly remove and/or disable access to the allegedly infringing content. Furthermore, when appropriate, TAT reserves the right to terminate the account of repeat infringers.

If you are a user whose content was removed due to alleged copyright infringement and you believe the removal was mistaken, please click-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of our Home Page and send us a message detailing your issue.

I found a photo on TAT that belongs to me. What should I do?

If you see a photo on TAT that belongis to you, please click-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of our Home Page and send us a message detailing your issue.

Do I retain the copyright and other legal rights to material I upload to TAT?

Yes, you retain the copyright to your personal content. When you upload your content, you grant us a license to use and display that content.

For additional information, please visit our "Terms of Use" (which contains information about intellectual property, as well as your privileges and responsibilities as a TAT user).

What does the term "public domain" mean?

Content can be released into the "public domain" when the term of the copyright on that content expires. Once content is in the public domain, it can be used freely by the public. To learn more about the "public domain", please see the following sites:

http://www.copyright.gov/fls/fl102.html
http://fairuse.stanford.edu/Copyright_and_Fair_Use_Overview/chapter9/
http://www.copyrightwebsite.com/Info/Law/FairUse.aspx

What distinguishes copyrighted material from non-copyrighted material?

Before uploading content to TAT, please ensure the following:

  1. That you have ownership of the copyright to all content prior to uploading it.
  2. You must have the permission of the copyright owner to use the content.
  3. The content was created solely by you and does not contain material created by any other party
  4. If the copyright holder authorized you to use that material, you may upload the content.
  5. All uploaded content must complies with the TAT "Terms of Use".

Note: TAT will not provide members with legal advice. If you’re uncertain that you’re legally authorized to post any content, TAT recommends that you seek the advice of an attorney. Also, the following websites offer useful background information on copyright and other intellectual property laws:

http://www.copyright.gov/
http://www.chillingeffects.org/
http://cyberlaw.stanford.edu/taxonomy/term/374

Note from TAT – Life is short and safe sex is the way to go. Please ensure that you practice safe sex.

"Other" Member Questions

How do I copy an image's web address (URL)

To copy the URL of an image that appears on a page, please follow the steps listed below:

  1. Internet Explorer
    1. Click on the desired picture with the right mouse button.
    2. Select Properties from the menu.
    3. Highlight the address appearing under Address (URL)
    4. Press Ctrl-C
  2. Google Chrome
    1. Click on the image with the right mouse button.
    2. Choose Copy Image URL from the menu.
  3. Safari and Opera
    1. Click on the desired image with the right mouse button (or holding down Ctrl while clicking with the left or only button).
    2. Select Copy Image Address from the menu.
  4. Mozilla Firefox
    1. Click on the image with the right mouse button.
    2. Choose Copy Image Location from the menu.

Once copied you can past it to your desired application by pressing Ctrl+V or right clicking and selecting 'past'

How do I view just "tranny" content?

Please click-on the "Search" link at the top of our Home Page. Then, click-on the drop-down menu under "Looking for a" and select "Transgender (TS/TV/TG)."

Note: Not only will you be able to view only those individuals who categorize themselves as a TS/TV/TG, our programming also ensures that the person you are seeking is also seeking someone just like YOU!!

How do I view just male content?

Please click-on the "Search" link at the top of our Home Page, click-on the dropdown menu under "Looking for a" and select "Man".

Note: Not only will you be able to view only those individuals who categorize themselves as a TS/TV/TG, our programming also ensures that the person you are seeking is also seeking someone just like YOU!!

Can TAT members post videos that are not copyrighted and belong soley to the TAT member posting them?

Unfortunately, TAT can’t accommodate video uploads at this time. However, if there’s enough demand, we’ll definitely consider adding it in the future.

I have a suggestion and/or feedback for TAT about "Member Log-in and Password".

If you wish to post a question, please click-on the "Contact" link at the bottom of our Home Page and send us a message detailing your suggestions and/or feedback. Thanks!

Note from TAT – Life is short and safe sex is the way to go. Please ensure that you practice safe sex.

Safety Tips

 

TAT is a great place to meet men for friendship, dating, and sexual encounters and it is our hope that your experiences with other members will be fun and fulfilling.

Because every encounter may not be friendly and safe, we encourage you to always use caution and common sense when using the site, especially when meeting anyone in person.

Please read through these important safety tips. They have been provided to help you protect yourself both online and offline and always remember, if you feel you are in immediate danger or have been a victim of a crime, please contact the police immediately.

Protect yourself from fraud

Never share personal or financial information with people you have online or that you do not know very well. Do not send money to online acquaintances, especially by wire transfer because wire transfers are similar to sending case. Do not give out any credit card information or your identification numbers such as a social security number.

Protect your privacy

Remain anonymous until you feel safe. Be cautious about revealing information that could identify you. Remember that if you give someone a piece of your personal information, such as your phone number or email address, they may be able to use Internet search sites to get your full name, street address or other personal information that might make you vulnerable to identify theft or stalkers.

If you want to give someone your real name, e-mail address, phone number, or any other personally identifying information you should also ask him to provide you with the same information about them. Use the information he has provided and Email him and/or call him to confirm that the information you have is valid. If you would like to know more about someone before you meet them, then we suggest that you use Internet search tools or conduct a background check to obtain more information on them.

Secure your login information

Use caution when accessing you account from a public or shared computer. Do not allow your password or screen name to be stored in a public computer. If you share your computer at home, you should disable browser features that save user names and passwords, delete your browsing history, and empty your cache after using the site.

Never give anyone your password no matter why they say they need it or who they say they are. If someone asks you for your password, you may report them here. If you think someone knows your password, go to the My Account section of the site and change it. If you believe someone obtained your password through your personal email account, you should immediately change the password to your email account and the password to your profile.

Take time to ask questions

Knowing what someone is into sexually is only part of the story. It is important to get to know as much as you can about a possible date or hookup before you meet in person. One way to do this is to read their profile carefully, and be sure that what is posted on their profile matches what they are saying to you and that you like what they say. Ask direct questions and listen for inconsistencies. Ask for their name, where they live and work, what they like and do not like. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they communicate. Follow your gut.

Meeting in person

If you plan to meet someone you have met online in person, remember, no matter how long you have been communicating online, you are really meeting them for the first time. Do all you can to verify that you know who you are meeting. You may have already asked for a picture, be sure to have a recent face picture and feel free to ask for some form of identification. Verification of identity, even through a web or cell cam, can help protect you from thieves and those that may seek to harm you.

Your first meeting should be in public and others should know where you are going. Give a friend their screen name and the other personal information that you have gotten from them. Print out their information (screen name, address, phone number, email address) and some of your communication, and leave it by your computer before you leave home.

Be sure to take your cell phone with you. Choose a comfortable meeting place like a café or an open park. Talk to him in a location where there are a lot of people around (people that can become instant witnesses in case of a bad date).

You may also want to ask a friend to call you during your arranged meeting time to check on you. Do not be afraid to let your date know that you have informed others about your meeting.

Be assertive

Do not do anything you are not comfortable doing, you have the right to set boundaries and limits, including sexual limits. No means No. If you are turned down, do not take it personally and respect the person's wishes.

Have your own transportation

Do not be dependent on someone else to pick you up or drop you off. Use public transportation or a taxi if they are available. To add an extra layer of protection, take alternate routes to and from home if you think you might be followed.

Have your own transportation

Getting drunk or getting high before meeting someone met online can put you in danger. If you plan on drinking or parting, to protect yourself from being knocked out or taken advantage of, mix your own drinks and use your own party supplies.

Secure your valuables

If you are meeting at someone else's home, do not take cash, credit cards, electronics (with the exception of your cell phone), or other valuables with you. If you are having someone come to your home, secure all valuables, hide your laptop and other portable devices that have value. Do not leave your visitor alone, it is likely that your visitor will want to use your restroom, clear all valuables and anything that may be used as a weapon from your restroom.

Ask about health

There is more to health than HIV status in profiles. Talk about your HIV status and ask about his. A conversation about sexually transmitted diseases, especially HPV, Hepatitis A, B and C, Herpes, and genital warts is part of risk reduction.

You have a right to have sex in whatever form you choose. We recommend that you use protection by wearing a condom when having sex. Whether you choose to use protection or not is up to you but at least know what you are getting into by talking with your partner.

Remember that not everyone is honest and some people will not tell you their real HIV status or their STD history.

If you encounter an online date that refuses to answer questions about their health, their HIV status, their last STD test, and/or their sexual history, then you should a use a condom or practice another form of safer sex. If you want to have protected anal sex (use a condom) and they refuse, do not give in. Sticking to your safety limits is important and compromising what makes you safe is not worth a date.

Block abusive users

Block any member that treats you in an abusive way and report the member to us immediately. The Report User link can be found in all emails.

Report it

If someone sends you abusive mail within our system please report it via the "Contact" link at the bottom of our home page.

If the problem happened outside our website

If you believe that are in immediate danger, no matter the circumstances, it is usually the police that have the capacity to protect you in an emergency. Call 911 immediately if you are being pursued, abused, or are a victim of any crime.



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